Postpartum Wellness
They told you this would be the happiest time of your life…
But it isn’t.
That promise of a mother immediately falling in love with her baby and living happily ever after just didn’t happen for you. Instead, you look at this new life in front of you and feel numb and sad. And, even though you hate to admit it… a little resentful.
This wasn’t just a joyful moment of a growing family. No… it’s a catastrophic life change… one that requires 24/7 attention and feels like it’s never going to end.
You don’t know who you are anymore…
You used to go out at night and rock a boardroom the next morning.
You used to have brunch with friends and date nights with your husband.
You were fashionable and trendy: nails done… hair done.
You exercised and volunteered in your free time.
You called people you missed… sent texts and cards on birthdays.
You had it together.
But now, you look in the mirror and see a stranger.
Big circles crowd your eyes.
Your clothes don’t fit.
Your hair is a mess.
Your body’s deflated and foreign.
You dread your husband’s touch… but also worry whether he’ll ever be attracted to you again.
At work, you think of home… and at home, you think of work… wondering whether you’re failing both spectacularly.
You feel isolated and alone. Friends you thought were “ride or die” are too busy or don’t get your schedule.
You haven’t exercised in months.
You forget things like birthdays and anniversaries…
Suddenly, your world is very small and lonely.
And with all you’re doing, you wonder if you’re “doing it right”…
Breastfeed… but not for too long.
Formula feed… but only this formula.
Co-sleep… but also sleep train.
Baby-led weaning… but only if the baby eats homemade, organic baby food.
Body confidence… but exercise more.
Don’t work… stay at home.
Oh, and be the best employee you can be… and be a trooper in your tribe of mom friends… and make Instagram-worthy holidays… and do your hair, makeup, and look pretty every day for your partner… and go out on date nights… and be the best partner, cook, housekeeper, daughter-in-law, AND MOM!
How can you win?
Other moms seem so confident… like they have it all together.
You see beautiful, laughing moms at the playground with their children, and they have it all in hand.
Every day, you wonder if you missed some class on motherhood that everyone else attended.
You feel like you’ll never measure up.
It doesn’t have to be this hard…
Let me help you connect with motherhood. Together, we’ll rediscover the joy of parenthood by removing the filters and lenses you use to judge yourself.
We’ll process your birth experience, along with your expectations of motherhood.
We’ll explore your history with YOUR parents to identify triggers that block you from authentically experiencing the present.
We’ll sort through the peanut gallery and find the voices that resonate with you – the ones that help you trust yourself and your instincts.
We’ll shore up your social and family supports so that you don’t feel like an island.
And you’ll learn how to communicate effectively, which includes asking for help, scheduling, and anything else you might need.
Let’s rediscover who you are…
Together, we’ll uncover the parts of yourself that you adore.
We’ll make plans to celebrate you and all that makes you whole.
We’ll work together to find thoughts and behaviors that replace the ones that are self-defeating.
We’ll partner together to create a vision statement for the life you want to lead… and the parent you want to be. We’ll smash the barriers in your way, finding you the supports you need to launch this new, improved version of yourself.
Along the way, we’ll find time to laugh and moments of gratitude. That’ll improve your mood and crack open the darkness!
The next chapter has started…
So, now, it’s time for you to take the lead.
This is a new journey for you, but it’s one in which you CAN find joy, identity, and power!
You can do this. Call me today for a free consultation: (310) 717-4239.